Anytime feedback. We also sometimes do 'mouth/throat fucking' which I guess some people might consider abusive, but I enjoy it. Why Do People Stop Talking to Their Parents? Are you fine working hard and fast while being constantly berated and backstabbed in a horrible condescending culture? Everything is breaking in new and terrible ways all the time. You are moving and multitasking all day. And you will owe part of that money back. My friends and family don't really know the details at all, but they have mentioned that it seems to them that he's somewhat controlling and they think it's kind of a one sided relationship. I never gave specific boundaries, and my master just took it slowly and based on my reaction was able to figure out where to take things and where not to. And deployment. The evening is usually much more varied, so it's hard to describe a typical evening. Because they have HUGE hiring and retention problems and people know it. You aren’t that dumb. Because they like the cold or whatever?? Most people use them to badmouth others and even better, and they use them incorrectly and qualitatively (which is totally hilarious at such a data driven company). 5 Reasons People End Their Relationship With Their Parent. After working there for a period of years I am free, and want to prevent others from falling into this hell hole. People drink a lot, and generally everyone is miserable. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Everyone does ops. Long hours and intense days. My master doesn't punish me that often, as I am a pretty obedient slave, but the most common punishment might be assigning more chores, or making me wear a gag or butt plug during the day while he's gone. I saw /u/VeryIntelligent post about being a master, so I figured I'd make a post about being a slave. He's a very responsible master and I don't often have to hint to him. Now I don't ever want to take the collar off, and could definitely see this being a 24/7 thing in the not-so-distant future. I'm 24 years old and live with my master/boyfriend, who is 30. Well I think punishment and humiliation is a separate thing, but I'd imagine many master/slave relationships (including ours) incorporate it at least somewhat. I definitely wouldn't have thought I'd be in this situation at all before I started my relationship with my master. 1. When he got me a new collar a few months ago I was kind of disappointed and really didn't want to give it up, but he ordered me to take it off and wear the new one. There hasn't been anything that I didn't want to do that he's commanded me to do, but of course there's things that I would prefer to do (or times when I just feel like doing something else) and he would insist otherwise. None of this really ever felt awkward, since at no point did we really jump into the deep end. And project management. Senior engineers working tickets all day. But it’s the intensity most people don’t know about. They need to search far and wide for people who don’t know or don’t care about what I am telling you. My master always eats first, and after he's done he'll put my serving on my plate and I can never have seconds. Look at the principles. You like pain, I guess…. Thousands of high sev tickets in many teams. The casual version of /r/IAmA. My master always decides when/if we have sex, but sometimes I hint to him that I need to be taken care of. Also of course the sex feels good. Sometimes he involves me with his other slaves, but it's not as common. It’s a horrible place that will ruin your health, your self esteem, your drive, and your relationships. There's been a few times where I tell him I don't want to (he knows me well enough to tell if it's really crossing a boundary or not), or try to convince him to let me do something else or something differently. On Reddit, a Disney fan pointed out a lesson in Cinderella that shouldn't be repeated.Cinderella lived in an abusive household where she was treated as a slave to her stepmother and stepsisters. I guess I'd consider the master/slave relationship to have started in earnest when he got me my first collar. Sure, at first a lot of what they did was innovative, but not anymore. Thanks! And I always know that my master will provide for me and take care of me and know what's best for me. Bell curving. I've never felt jealous of his other slaves. Amazon is a dev ops culture from top to bottom. If your manager doesn’t do it, he’s in trouble. Answer: Amazon believes its own press, and they are too hypercritical and xenophobic to see when something isn’t working. Yes, I find serving my master faithfully to be very fulfilling. Speaking as a part-time player (switch), even if it is, there's loads of this kind of slave in the world! I'm not sure I really have any tips exactly, since I think every relationship is going to be different. We've been together for 3 years, and 2 of those I've been his slave as well. No respect for planning. I haven't really worked since I graduated from University. He doesn't allow us to kiss each other at all. The majority of the time is really just both of us slaves pleasing him together, rather than much contact between us, but he has had his male slave have sex with me with him, and I might do oral while my master has sex with either of them. My master likes to keep his house very clean, so I usually spend a lot of time cleaning everything. Technical debt is huge, and the environment is too big to ever clean it up. When confronted with life’s biggest opportunities, most of us shit the bed. I love talking about my relationship and my master is kind enough to let me do it pretty freely. You need to do it the Amazon way. After he gave me the collar it pretty much immediately became my most prized possession. Non-smoking friends are not willing to bring smoke into their home, and may not wish to be exposed in any situation. do you enjoy this lifestyle? While he's at work I have a lot of chores I have to do, like cleaning, shopping, getting ready to prepare dinner for him, and things like that. Honestly that might be one of the reasons I'm so drawn to this type of relationship, because I can't really think of any way to be closer to someone than to be perfectly obedient to them and for them to be fully responsible to you (I really need to work to improve my obedience still). I was a little anxious and hesitant, but much more excited. Relationships take a lot of effort in any situation. Below are 10 of the most common strategies for reluctance I can think of. Amazon pays a lot. Is there ever a time you don't enjoy it, or you don't want to do what he is requesting? He has one other slave that is a guy, and one other slave that is a girl, so of course that affects what things we do with them. Attention anyone thinking about working for Amazon! I don't have any really close friends, but I never really did before even meeting my master, so I'm not sure if my relationship really had any effect on my social life. They don’t care that you know how to do something better or faster for the customer. My social life with others probably isn't as active as a lot of other peoples, but I have friends and still see my parents, etc. In the bedroom there's not really anything we do I don't like, since even before I was his slave I've been really submissive. Well, I think I've always been a bit submissive. He can be strict, but he's never unfair and he only punishes me when and how I deserve. 10 Reasons People Divorce After Less Than A Year Of Marriage. I actually prefer to wear it because it shows I'm his and really makes me feel most comfortable. Principles used as a weapon. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. If Amazon’s hiring practices were so good, why would they need to control people with nutty cult like principles? They look okay, right? I prefer to let him make the decision and he always knows how to please both of us. No matter that you just moved from Pakistan or whatever.. Tough crap. Spanking is the only real physical punishment he gives me, and if I'm bad he might spank me a couple times or he might spank me until my bum is a little bruised, depending on how big of a punishment I deserve. My master would only use humiliation as a punishment if I was really bad, such as forgetting or refusing to do a chore or something. When we wake up I usually bring my master coffee and breakfast before he goes to work. Although he's more in control of which/how many days I have off, so there's that. Is the sex rough/abusive (I mean that in a good way)? In reading the message boards and Reddit, I see the virus has created a lot of chaos for estranged adult children as many parents are using this as a reason to reach out. I'm perfectly happy to do this but I don't know much about it. Or they think they will make it. Our relationship isn't 24/7, as I usually have 1-2 days off in a week. But without going into detail, she turned out to be a bit crazy, and even though she ended up rejecting me before the relationship really … We also have an assortment of ropes or straps to restrain me if I'm either being bad or just if my master wants to. Why do you think they had a hiring event in your hometown in the Ukraine? The sense of being loved and everything. Want an app to anonymously tattle on your coworkers? Our relationship isn't 24/7, as I usually have 1-2 days off in a week. In the end, what got Cinderella out of her misery was a little bit of magic and marrying a wealthy man. Besides that aspect, there's a lot of things that I get from this relationship that people get from more traditional relationships. Towards the end of chapter 6, as Lennie’s captors advance towards him, Steinbeck gives a brief description, using pathetic fallacy, of the landscape in which the story is unfolding; “Already the sun had left the valley to go climbing up the slopes of the Gablian Mountains, and the hill tops were rosy in the sun.” There are chores I don't enjoy doing of course, but I get satisfaction from doing them by serving my master faithfully. Everyone knows you work long hours in most groups at Amazon. When that happens he'll gives me a strict or harsh punishment to remind me that I need to obey him. Have a life? One is a plastic ring that goes just inside my mouth and the other has 4 hooks that keep my mouth open. Amazon’s got it! Getting paged all night. How did you end up in this relationship? The environment is relaxed, we just ask that you have fun! And I am talking about intense hardcore tell me everything you are doing, and 5 reasons why, while I yell at you micromanagement. You just sold your soul to the devil. We also two open-mouth gags. This is what leads to ops and not being able to work on anything cool (refer to points 5 and 6). Currently I have 1-2 days of time in a week where I'm not really his slave, but there are times I choose to stay his slave during that time anyway. Or the way your inexperienced manager says is the Amazon way, anyway. Any tips or insight for a novice? There is a strong bell curve in place for how you will be reviewed. Even with all the other companies you could go to that care about you, even a little? Other than the collar, we also have 3 butt plugs for me of different sizes/materials. Ops. Does your sex life involve any toys or kinky devices? Ops. I love having him take responsibility for me and taking care of me. Friends that do not visit every day may be able to make the relationship work better than those that are extremely close. They are constantly behind the curve on scaling, their projects are always late, there is nothing documented, there is no architecture (or even respect for having an architecture or design). For me, it would be a total mood killer if my master was asking if something was okay or not, but of course crossing a boundary would be just as much if not more of a mood killer. When I first met my master I was really attracted to how he always confidently took control of any situation, and pretty early after we started really dating I mentioned while we were talking that I really enjoyed that, and he'd said he had some experience in a dom/sub type of relationship and suggested trying it with me. You are tired when you leave. I've only done anything with them while he was there, of course, and he very rarely only watches. Seriously? Sometimes we spend it with more play time, other times just relaxing or watching a movie, it really depends on my master's mood. I also still have a dildo from before I started my relationship, but I rarely use it anymore. There's never been anything he's ordered me to do that I didn't end up doing. No! This question of why couples divorce after mere months of marriage was at the heart of an Ask Reddit discussion ... We were both young (23 at the time) and wanted to carry on our relationship for more than a few weeks at a time. 11 Reasons Working For Amazon Is the Worst Ever (From an Insider). Please do not do it. Also the amount of time I spent as a slave rather than just a submissive girlfriend has increased over time as well, and might increase more as time goes by. Smoking can make them especially difficult to maintain. Who brought up the idea and was it at all awkward at first? Do you or he have a favorite? I grew to love my current collar as much as the old one, and I have to admit it is a nicer collar. He's never come close to crossing a boundary with me, but different people will have different boundaries so you need to figure them out. If I've been bad, such as not cleaning well enough, instead of this free time he'll give me punishment time, where I either have to do specific chores or sometimes sexual tasks while he's gone. He has 2 other slaves, one male and one female, who he meets generally once a week, maybe 2 tops. Because of that, switching to a slave wasn't terribly difficult, and it wasn't a sudden switch, it was more of a gradual thing. You thought this would be number 1? I think this is hot as hell, so I have a bunch of questions. But everyone does planning. What kind of things do you do for him sexually? Sometimes we have pretty rough sex, especially if I've been a bit naughty recently. This is why it is so common that progressive racial programs end up hurting the people they’re written to help most. What kinds of things have you done with his other slaves? Although he's more in control of which/how many days I have off, so there's that. Anyone's welcome to host or participate in an AMA. However, keep in mind that with about 1 year average tenure, you are not likely to get that money for long. How did the switch happen from just dating to being his slave? Amazon is the big league of micromanagement. If I've done something really bad he'll usually give me quite a spanking with a paddle. Was it hard to get use to? Don’t say you didn’t. We slowly waded in from the shallow end so it's always felt comfortable. Health problems galore. I'm 24 years old and live with my master/boyfriend, who is 30. I wouldn't often voice my preference to something else, and when I do I usually get punished a bit. I kind of get anxious when I'm not wearing it and tend to touch my neck a lot because it feels like something is missing. Do you have an active social life outside of this relationship? Not just sexually, in life in general. Just remember, they will be tattling on any misstep you make too; and right to your micromanaging boss! No respect for experience: At Amazon, it’s about Amazon. Can you describe an average day for you? Your chances of being “the man” on that project are small. Then double it. We didn't discuss it beforehand or anything, and when he gave it to me I was kind of surprised and shocked at myself like "Wow.. we're taking this pretty far." Amazon doesn’t care about what is going on outside of Amazon, and they are so inwardly focused, they don’t even know that they are getting passed by open source technologies. I even only wore the collar when I was with him. Here is a top 11 list of what sucks the most about working at Amazon: Micromanagement. When I first became his slave it definitely wasn't a full time thing, and I actually spent more time as typical girlfriend than a slave. Yes, there is backstabbing, and if you are in the bottom 10% you will be termed “LE” and given a PIP which you aren’t meant to succeed at. Wrong. Nah. Micromanaging is what “Dive Deep” is really about. We do involve toys and 'devices'. Negotiate a great comp deal. Okay; so you are fine working hard and fast? And on and on. Hah! There is no time for architecture, planning, or proper testing. How often do you have to wear a gold bikini? You will likely be spending your days keeping the lights on. And yes, each team needs to hit the bell curve. Over time though I became more and more committed to him. I don't mind at all. That’s what matters. And, let’s say you get on a team that is doing something cool. It's hard to describe a typical full day exactly, but there's some stuff that I generally do every day. Ive always wondered how people go from normal relatively vanilla relationships to a slave/master relationship. Great pay is a mirage. Until they get LE’d. I can see how it would appear that way from the outside without knowing any details, but really I think that he provides for me and gives me much more than I give him, so I always feel like I need to do better and give back as much as I possibly can. On some days he'll give me permission to do other stuff, like meet friends for lunch or just go out and do something for myself (or post an AMA on reddit), especially if I've been very good recently. Usually it has involved something with one of his other slaves, but not always. We really don't have these 'group sessions' very often, and it's actually really rare for me to do anything with the other girl at all. Topics may involve anything from ordinary to extraordinary subject matter. Look at Amazon’s leadership principles. I always ask for permission from him if I want to masturbate when he's not home, and on an occasion that he allows it I usually don't use any toy. My master has much more experience than me in this regard. Still not convinced? Not anymore. But, most of them moved for Amazon, and now they are stuck. He got me a new collar and leash about 4 months ago and I absolutely love it. Fine. Today, Alabama Governor Kay Ivey is expected to sign a major contract with private prison company CoreCivic, kicking off a $3B plan to construct three new prisons in the state. They are desperate and will likely give you what you want. More Ops. If you don’t like being micromanaged, Amazon is not the right place for you. And then we enact a number of strategies to avoid the pain and pressure inherent in reaching for our dreams. As I said, I'm rather ignorant on this subject. Do any of your friends or family know that you are his slave? In return I love to please him and show him I'm devoted to him. We’ll start at the shallow end and work our way to the deep end. When my master gets home he's usually ready and anxious for a bit of play time, and after that it's usually time to finish preparing dinner. Amazon has grown way too fast, and everything is brittle and messed up. Be aggressive and ask for what you want. 1. Then you will be out. We usually don't have much time before he has to leave, so there's not much more I do then. Is there anything he's made you do that you didn't really want to? What do you get out of this relationship? Otherwise, you go to a group event or a random interview loop and end up in an org-wide hiring queue, where teams with "priority needs" are first in line for staffing. I saw /u/VeryIntelligent post about being a master, so I figured I'd make a post about being a slave.. Does he always initiate it or do you as well? Refer to point 2 (misuse of the principles). That was the most disobedient I'd ever been without him punishing me for it. Well of course I enjoy being in this relationship, and I've always kind of been submissive. I just started a sexual relationship with a girl who's into punishment and humiliation (directed at herself). I don't consider the sex very abusive, but I guess it depends on what you consider abusive. And, you will make those mistakes because you will be working hard and fast, while being tired, and getting constantly graded against the idiotic principles that don’t make sense for mature adults. I guess to start I pretty much always wear a collar, except when I'm visiting friends or family he allows me to take it off. Because even though you might all be awesome, some of you are less awesome (not usually technically by the way, you just didn’t kiss the right butt). Sorry if this is something else entirely. From Bezos (notorious micromanager) on down, managers are incented to micromanage. I know my master will always keep his responsibilities he has towards me and I know I'm his biggest responsibility. Refer to point 5. being a bangmaid? From there is really just slowly built up, with my master kind of introducing me to more and more. Read it and weep. I will generally do what my master tells or indicates for me to do, but sometimes he'll relax and let me decide but not very often. Why? Many people at Amazon have health issues, are taking meds, get divorced, or have other family issues. I think its completely fair for him to punish me for doing so, as he knows what's best for me and sometimes I really just don't deserve to make the decision if I haven't been a good girl recently. 15 minutes response time. There are many reasons why sex can disappear from a relationship, Heide says, and most of them don’t have anything to do with the other partner. Has your master ever ordered you to do something that you were unwilling to do? You thought they were on cutting edge stuff? Press J to jump to the feed. Do you ever get jealous that he has other slaves? This was my first experience with anything like this, and found I really loved it from the start. “Racial justice,” in Critical Race Theory, means getting “justice” for the group , which it says is a social construction , not for the real person, who is just a member of that group. I hope you don't mind. I actually enjoy cleaning somewhat, depending on what chores I'm doing. I had a part time job at a bookstore that I worked 24-32 hours a week at when I first started my relationship with my master (then just boyfriend), but eventually I just became a stay-at-home sub/slave and my master supports me and provides for me. 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